Does My Husband’s Statement “I Left You.” Affect Our Marriage?
Hanafi Fiqh
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
My husband’s family opposed our marriage, but he supported it. We performed nikah in March 2022, hoping for family acceptance. Recently, he was influenced by harmful amulets and mentioned separation, saying, ‘I am leaving you’ and ‘I left you.’ Does this affect our nikah? What steps can I take to protect my marriage?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate.
I hope you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question. I’m sorry to hear about your family situation and the issue with harmful amulets.
Unfortunately, your husband’s statements of, I am leaving you, and I left you, will affect your marriage. However, you can remarry anytime during the waiting period (‘idda) and with a simple renewed contract of marriage (nikah) and dowry (mahr) in front of two witnesses. [Ibn ʿAbidin, Radd al-Muhtar]
There is no need to invite or let others know; it is just a formality of the marriage contract of offer and acceptance in front of two witnesses and a minimum new marriage dowry.
Steps to Protect Marriage
Both of you should review your obligations within the marriage and agree on a conflict resolution plan, preferably with the help of a trusted local scholar. Additionally, sit down with your family and express your desire for a happy marriage and commitment to work towards mutual family harmony that benefits everyone involved.
You may also take a free course on Islamic marriage with us. May Allah (Most High) create happiness and harmony in your marriage, Amin.
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I pray this helps with your question.
Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat
Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.